Tell me honestly, does the thought of preparing meat and three veg strike fear into your very heart?
Yes?
Then you qualify to keep reading. If not, I’m afraid you’ll have to shoo. That’s right: shoo! We are about to discuss some secret, serious, slack homemakers business.
Are you sure you’re not a perfectly capable, cooking dinner every night type of reader? There is a danger you will be tempted to feel smug after reading, and as the character of my readers is paramount in my mind, I’d spare you that downfall. So this is your last chance to scat.
O.K. Unless of woman-kind I alone have ever struggled with the life sentence (pardon!) privilege of cooking sensible meals every single everlasting day of the week, we should be left with those of you who are, for whatever reason, be that illness, lack of skill or knowledge, or simply the propensity for reading too long in a day, failing to cook dinner as regularly as you need to.
My initial remedy for meal preparation aversion is not cheap. This is no time to be budget conscious, and it may well cost you similarly to the round of take-aways and resturant dinners you rely on now. Budget conscious comes later (if it needs to), but for now the primary goal is to establish a habit of daily preparation. To that end, I offer you the “L plates” of meal planning.
When you advance there will be many factors to consider in planning a menu: for now the prime criteria is to make it as simple as possible while you establish a routine of meal preparation. This may take two weeks to a month, depending on your dedication and circumstances (sickness and general trauma can delay progress!)
First, decide what you can make. I’ve put together a MEAL PLANNER Beginnings *pdf that requires minimal preparation and leaves the least possible dishes to wash afterward. You may want to tweak it in the event you don’t eat some of the food listed, but the idea is to be simple and realistic: you are trying to establish a habit, and this needs all the ingenuity you possess to pull it off.
* The recipe for Monday night’s dinner in the menu planner can be found here: http://beyondbluestockings.wordpress.com/2007/11/11/emergency-dinners/
The tuna can also be substituted with beef or chicken: I know that sounds weird, but I promise I have tried it all three ways, and it really does work with all three, and extends your choices!
If you are part way on the road already, you may want to browse the “emergency dinners” category to the right, or google simple meals and start planning your own menu according to tastes.
Cook like a busy person. Remember how your mother and your home ec teacher taught that every vegetable needs it’s own saucepan? And how there was a mountain of washing up at the end?
What were they thinking???
Take one large saucepan, half fill with water and add chat potatoes (you know the tiny ones you don’t have to peel? Because the point is…you don’t have to peel them, and it’s easy to guess how many each person will eat.) About five minutes before they are ready, dump in some mixed frozen veggies. Yes, in the same saucepan – forget home ec. I actually find this easier than microwaving veggies, but if you prefer to microwave, go at it. On another night, use frozen corn cobs instead of the potatoes, and add the other veggies at the same time.
For variety, an alternative is to buy large, washed potatoes. Again, you are not going to peel them: just wrap in alfoil and put them in the oven about an hour before you want to eat. Don’t worry about pre-heating the oven and coming back to put them in – all in one action, put the oven on and toss the potatoes in. Again, serve with some frozen greens – or not. (You don’t want to shock your system.
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This will not be the most exciting few weeks of eating you’ve ever done, but if you stick at it, it will soon become less of an insurmountable task, and you will have the momentum of routine to stir you on to greater culinary heights.
Print out your menu and place it somewhere unforgettable. If you are a morning person, (or if a new baby is the reason you find yourself not managing dinner any more) use the morning to half fill your saucepan with water and place it on the stove ready to go, or wrap your potatoes in foil if that’s on tonight’s menu. You will love yourself later and reinforce your commitment to actually go through with it come evening.
Decide on a time you are going to start dinner, and barring a natural disaster, stick to that time. Ask your mother or someone to phone and hold you accountable if you need to. Be sure to make a shopping list reflecting your menu – failure to have ingredients to hand is to sabotage your plan.
Preparing dinner every night may not ever make your heart sing, but if you can stick with it long enough, neither will it seem the insurmountable task it presently appears while driving past the pizza shop. You may even grow to enjoy it: it’s not likely, but stranger things have happened, and certainly you will be healthier.
Happy cookin’ folks, and stay tuned for the “P Plates” of meal planning, coming soon. You’ll be inspired
(Or, confound it, if you’re one of those sneaky Martha Stewart types and you didn’t shoo when you were supposed to, you can marvel anew at how the other half live
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July 15, 2009 at 7:15 am
I make a list of the meals we’re going to eat before I go to the store… that way I don’t end up with a bunch of mix-match food items that don’t really relate!

And, if you find foil to be expensive (yes, I’m cheap, so sue me), I just poke holes in the potatoes, rub salt on them, and either set them on a piece of stoneware, or right on the oven rack to bake. They turn out all creamy in the middle, and crisp on the outside, just like the restaurants.
I like the multiple veggies in one pot idea… why didn’t I think of that???
July 15, 2009 at 9:51 am
PRAISE GOD!!! How did you know, how did you know?!?!
July 15, 2009 at 11:30 am
I’m hearing you Joi – you are not alone! THE BEST THING to happen recently in this household is that The Man has discovered a PASSION for cooking!! THANK YOU JESUS!!!
Melanie x
July 15, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Okay, I am a fraud…
I left it one whole day to comment because I confess…I love cooking!!!!
I don’t like house work, I don’t like gardening, ironing, crafting (much)but I love to cook.
Please forgive me B.B. I read the whole post through, I empathised with you. But cooking, especially dinner at night, is one of my joys! I’m not saying I’m great at it but I love to do it. I like to plan, shop, (as budget permits) and try new things. But most of all I like the end of the day, when school is done, there is a pile of chores I could be doing, the kids are out side till dark and I get the kitchen to myself and bang away on the pots and pans!
I have also enjoyed teaching my children to cook. We all enjoy a good nosh up!
July 15, 2009 at 6:24 pm
Wanna trade art lessons for a few home cooked meals?
July 15, 2009 at 7:58 pm
You are a woman after my own heart
I am the Queen of simple, no-fuss meals, and have begun to advance a bit with my creativity of such.
Only tonight my daughter commented how she is really enjoying my cooking. On top of that my husband said of the meal I ‘threw’ together that it was equal to a restaurant meal. I was so chuffed! What did I make? I hear you ask.
It contained one tray of diced turkey meat (chicken will do just fine), one bag of mixed stir-fry veges (not the frozen variety), and one sachet of honey and soy stir-fry sauce. All cooked in the one saucepan. Served on top of some plain rice (I use my rice cooker). So simple and sooo so delicious. The cost? approx $11.00 ~ and it fed 4 of us. Time to prepare? 10-15 minutes max. Cheaper and tastier than take-away, thats for sure.
July 15, 2009 at 8:19 pm
Whitney! What a great idea to put the potatoes just…. in! I am definitely going to try that one, thanks for sharing your great idea.
Christine, how did I know? (smiling..) When I was first married, I was a domestic disaster! It was not because I didn’t know how, but you do have to be home to cook (and clean…grimace!)
I had a demanding job, a gruelling social schedule, and if by some miracle there was a spare moment or two in my life – I spent it reading a book. Eating, never mind cooking, was not a priority.
Having children changed things dramatically, and my life began to look more sensible. But each pregnancy (horribly sick for the duration) and new baby (PND and sleep deprivation!) stripped any semblance of routine, and each time I had to work hard to regain something like normality.
At present our house is swinging along fine (though I confess I dedicate a reasonable amount of time to developing “dead easy dinners”) and I am currently working with another young mother who is in the difficult place of suffering ill health, while failing to manage dinners in the traditional way. Many of the ideas I have mentioned here are things I have used myself to get back to normal, and are things I am trying to teach my young friend.
Melanie – you’ve hit the jack pot, lol! God is good
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Marthaum, Ruby!I love cooking, too. But I only like to do things like make chocolate truffles, and have elaborate dinner parties, and make fiddly little individual fruit and custard tarts..I guess you can say the “arts and crafts” type of cooking
As for the daily grind of meat and potatoes type cooking…well, I’d rather read a book
Seriously, it’s never going to be my favourite thing to do, but it really is a challenge when you have little people still underfoot. And that time of the day is nightmarish when toddlers get cranky and tired and hungry and bored and cranky… and you are trying to do things the way you were taught to (which often is more complicated than it really needs to be).
I feel for young mothers with little people, who have not learned the skills to get them through the process of cooking dinner each night. It really is about a LOT more than just finding the ingredients and cooking them. There are so many factors that can influence the task, making it a huge and overwhelming thing. I dearly wish we lived in a culture where older women were willing and invited to get beside newly married, or new mothers, and teach them how to order their time, manage their children, and prioritize their tasks. (anyway..drifting into ramble mode – forgive me!)
“Wanna trade art lessons for a few home cooked meals?”
lol! How I wish you’d been around when I was eating Meals on Wheels…blurk!!!
Amanda, you’re a champion! And you’re just the kind of lady who would be perfect to train those suffering from domestic allergies. You’ve got it together, yet you aren’t afraid to toss aside the pedantic practices of the home ec school room, and cook adventurously!
Congratulations on your dinner
I just love it when a “toss together” dinner goes over well.
July 15, 2009 at 8:46 pm
Yes, alas I have no one under foot any more
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Amanda’s throw together sounds lovely.
July 15, 2009 at 8:58 pm
I love mince because it can be used for the basis of so many things. What I frequently do is throw some mince in a frying pan . After I browned the mince I throw in a budget brand jar of pasta sauce , then I add frozen vegetables . I either serve the dish with pasta or potatoes that I have cooked in the microwave .
I am also a fan of cooking in bulk as I don’t mind eating the same meal two or three nights in a row or eating it for breakfast the next day .
July 15, 2009 at 10:14 pm
Luke, I’m with you on the leftovers ~ and I think they usually taste better the next day anyway
July 15, 2009 at 11:30 pm
Somehow I missed this post in my feed reader…but received the comments so finally realised there was a new post that I had missed!
Well, I have nothing much to comment on except to say I like the *look* of your post and plan…but as you may have read recently I have my own plan which is somewhat different to your plan but a plan nevertheless. My plan?
Self preservation!
They’ll learn how to cook if they wish to survive! And while they’re at it, they might even cook me something to eat too.
It all sounds rather achievable and yummy, Mrs. BB.
July 16, 2009 at 3:55 pm
“domestic allergies”
Mrs BB, you do have a way with words.
And I finally realised what my specific problems have been all these years. I suffer from “domestic allergies”.
July 16, 2009 at 7:42 pm
Ruby, it’s a trade off, that no little ones underfoot, isn’t it? I won’t recognize my easy life when a certain little person outgrows generating work with every breath: but at the same time, it will cost me dear to lose those generous cuddles, the super cute turns of phrases, and those chubby little hands to hold.
Luke! For a bachelor, it sounds like you have things well under control.
I like to cook for two nights at once, too: I just love myself the next day when I don’t have to cook tea! It truly appeals to my sense of time and energy economy, as it makes the same amount of mess to cook double lasagne, or stew, or whatever, as it does to make one serve. So it saves time and washing up – perfect!
Amanda, yes, I’m not sure if they taste better the next day because the flavours have had time to develop, or because of the added joy in eating something you didn’t just cook
Susan, lol! I read about your plan – it’s a beauty
My Amy friend, what can I say? It has to be an identifiable condition. But, of course, we are working hard on a cure
Thanks all for your contributions
July 18, 2009 at 3:12 am
I missed a good one! Wish I had stopped by sooner! I would add to involve the kids–I often have one child choose a meat from the freezer and one a starch (potatos rice etc) and one a veg and one a fruit or dessert (if a special night
)-each makes their thing-sometimes we get quite the combos but a meal happens with minimal work from each. I hope you aren’t implying that the occasional meal of popcorn causes any permanent damage though…
July 19, 2009 at 8:15 am
Dandelionmom, Hmmm, I don’t have enough children of stove-using age to make that work, but I do like the involve them approach. I often assign vegetable peeling to the little people and it genuinely is a help, and they have all been able to make a salad as soon as they could reach the sink.
The occasional meal of popcorn? Corn is good for you…I see no problem…
July 20, 2009 at 6:13 pm
Isn’t it fortunate that my husband LOVES cooking, and our children take after him?
I don’t mind cooking mornays, soups, stews and rissoles, but that is about the extent of my culinary expertise.
Blessings,
Jillian
July 20, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Jillian, yes, it a bonus that your husband and children love cooking.
My girls like making rissoles, which is great because it’s fiddly and messy, (making it tricky for me to look after miss almost-2-yr-old at the same time), but, Oh! the mess they can produce while at it is prodigious!!
July 21, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Hey Mrs BB,

Back from holiday and checking out my favourite blogs.
I like your idea of posting ideas for the “cooking challenged”. That was definitely me in my early days of marriage – many moons ago now. I don’t enjoy cooking (apart from making your delicious truffles and the odd dessert/baking) – I do it because I HAVE to which never makes it particularly enjoyable.
I’m one of those people who would happily swallow a pill to meet my dietary requirements – although saying that, I do enjoy eating and socialising with friends – it’s sad I can’t do it every night of the week.
I get sick of the same meals, week in week out. Maybe we should have a blog round-robin challenge where we all take turns to post a meal that our family enjoys in the hope it will give others a new recipe to try?
Variety is the spice of life – so they say??
Fee x
July 22, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Fee, your recipe round-robin sounds like a great idea
Can you set something up on your blog, and we can all link back to you when we post our recipes?
July 22, 2009 at 11:08 pm
Right-ho. I’ll get onto it at the weekend.
Fee x
July 24, 2009 at 7:38 am
I’ll be wearing my thinking cap to find something inspiring to share.