Groan!
With six people living in the house, something has to go. While on holidays recently, one of my children made the comment that she wished she could live with that amount of clothes all the time: it was much easier to manage.
While we couldn’t get by on just three changes of clothes (it was a farm holiday, and back home there are other places we must be appropriately dressed for!) she did have a point. We could get by with a lot less.
So as it’s a new year, and it is the time for re-assessing directions and goals, I have joined forces with my mother, and instituted a “Throw out Thursday”. I couldn’t begin to undertake to declutter every area of my house in one go, and frankly, even one room at a time is overwhelming, but I can find one thing each Thursday that I can dump, re-cycle or store more efficiently. (Maybe even more than one
) Mama and I will be requiring a report from each other on the progress of the project each Thursday – which means no forgetting, slacking off, or excuses!
I imagine for the first few weeks it will be dead easy. I am more than happy to toss with abandon, and will be tackling my own things first. I am prepared to be ruthless. But the catch will be dealing with the rest of the family, who are all hoarders by nature. I have met strong opposition from all other family members during the past decluttering frenzies, as they are all very sentimental types.
Lest I make myself out to be better than I am, here’s my confession. There is one weakness that I struggle with in regards to hoarding.
Books.
Not that I think you can have too many – no such thing. But, when I want to read a title someone has recommended, I buy the first daggy old paperback I come across in a thrift store. I don’t want to pay zillions for something that I may discard because of lack of interest, or suitability. However, once I have established that I do, in fact, like the book, then I start looking for a nice copy. The plan has always been that I would then pass on, donate, or throw out the old one.
But could you throw out an old friend? I mean, if you first read “Men of Iron” in a tired old paperback, when you finally found a good, sturdy, hardcover, could you callously throw your old friend in the bin? And what about sets? When I already have a copy of “The Master of Ballantrae” in a nice hardcover, but there is a dear little set of black miniatures by the same author (perfect for holidays) that would be incomplete if I toss the double…
What’s a girl to do? Any thoughtful, sensitive suggestions would be appreciated
I know that once we have culled some of the excess things, we will need to continue a lifestyle of both reducing our intake of ’stuff’, and of moving things on when they are past their usefulness. So in that light if you have any helpful ideas on reducing clutter in general, please share!
January 10, 2009 at 4:43 pm
Well, I have a suggestion… it may help, or it may be ridiculously useless
Put aside all the books that should go… the ones you can’t bear to toss out. Make the pile distinct. Walk out of the room, and have your husband go put them in a box, and get him to take them to Lifeline, or wherever. Easy!!
You WILL feel better, I guarantee it!
It is a great idea to declutter… very therapeutic.
January 10, 2009 at 6:34 pm
EEEEK!!
Sweetie, I know you can’t mean that.
January 10, 2009 at 7:21 pm
Yep! The ones you have 2 copies of. You only have to ‘dispose’ of the worse-for-wear copy
You’ll thank me one day!
January 10, 2009 at 8:50 pm
You’ll thank me one day!
Hmmm, maybe.
After the shock treatment and the therapy, perhaps.
If you really do think I should callously throw my old friends away, (you’ve got to know, it hurts me just to type it), what would you do in a scenario such as this;
I have a set of books, all in hardcovers, and one or two have seen better days (some are very old) but I have doubles of one or two, which are in much better condition and would stand up to being read by the children as they are more recent paperback editions.
Do I get rid of the old ones (that little piece of history on my shelf) and leave a glaring paperback in it’s place amongst the aged hard covers, or do I toss the paperbacks, and take my chances that the children will be kind?
This is one of the reasons I torment myself over the doubles. I like things to match, but I also like the children to have the freedom to wander up the yard and read the books lying on the trampoline in the shade.
I get quite paralyzed trying to make these decisions (yeah, I know it’s NOT changing the world kind of important, but..)
Oh, big sigh. Decluttering is so much harder when it’s my books. I am not attached to my clothes, excess tupperware, shoes, handbags, or any of those kind of things, but books – YOW! I may need to have a serious look at whether this could be an area of idolatry cluttering up my life.
Friend, I know I will thank you when I get to the bottom of this issue
January 11, 2009 at 12:03 am
NO NO NO NO!!! DO NOT LISTEN TO HER!!! (I am sure she means well….butNOOOOOO!)
Weeding through your books for the losers, the ones there because you liked the author but not THIS book…pulling out books you bought for school only to dicover they are inane…and ruthlessly yanking books you have outgrown and no longer agree with now that you have grown spiritually..and books you would be embarrassed for people to know you have…THOSE kind GO. Old friends do not get dumped-no matter how kindly you do it!!! who can have too many? they aren’t hurting anyone neatly on your shelves…why not realphabetize or something instead? Maybe get hubby to make you a bigger set of bookshelves or a new one for a little nook someplace else?
Another very important consideration….your petals my like some of those for their own collection-or for their library when they start one of their own–in fact–maybe you should gather a few MORE of the best ones
Plus-when you have a guest over and inevitably start talking about a wonderful book–you can grab it and hand it to them! (AND you don’t have to get all uptight if it takes awhile coming back…you know you do. LOL
Declutter in ways that do not feed your imagination and awake your soul and cost NO calories! HAHA
January 11, 2009 at 2:59 am
Alright! You win Mrs BB
Just put it down to temporary insanity on my behalf ok?
Only because Mrs Dandelionmom put forward a very convincing argument. And I like you Mrs BB, too much to see you in such torment. The books can stay!
January 11, 2009 at 5:54 am
I think, that if there are books that are sooo good that you have two copies…you should DEFINATELY share them with your friends! (winking smilie face here *sigh* if only I knew how to put one in!)
De-cluttering is a great goal, one I too must now embark on…since…oh beyond blue stockings….I think we have found our dream property! *glup, sniff*
Mum and Dad shall now begin the process of selling their place…yes, the agents ARE coming, and we too must begin to prepare…oh the adventure begins but the heart is heavy too!
January 11, 2009 at 8:46 am
in fact–maybe you should gather a few MORE of the best ones
LOL!
God bless you, Dandelionmom, you are a life saver. (my books thank you!
)
But Amanda, I promise I will cull a LOT of the one that fit into the descriptions above. There are plenty that I don’t need to keep, and then I will have lots of space to keep the doubles that count.
You think this was a bit like telling your husband you’ve crashed the car, so he feels all panicky and hysterical, then you show him it’s only a scratch? You wouldn’t believe how relieved I feel to know I am getting rid of the books that don’t matter, lol!!
Fivepeasinapod:
…you should DEFINATELY share them with your friends!
You know I will
“(winking smilie face here *sigh* if only I knew how to put one in!)”
Let me help you. I used to wonder how Dandelionmom and Anitz used to manage so many smilies. Here’s a little help…
http://codex.wordpress.org/Using_Smilies
…oh beyond blue stockings….I think we have found our dream property! *glup, sniff*
My dear, precious friend. I am going to try to be happy for you. I am.
After I finishing CRYING about it!
xx
January 11, 2009 at 10:36 am
Until you move 7 times in 7 years you will probably do fine to build another bookcase or just rearrange the books.
As for me, I’m so sick and tired of my books. Yes, they’re my dear friends but packing and unpacking and arranging and rearranging them so many times has finally driven me to the edge.
The serious side of it all has shown me how materialistic I can be, although as a homeschooler and I easily (all too easily) try to rationalise/ justify my hoarding of books. I’ve also seen just how much emphasis books can take in a home – and sometimes they can even become more important than developing relationships…but I’m easily unbalanced so am probably quite alone in all that. Maybe that’s why we move so much – it’s what keeps me on my knees.
True confession time: how many books do you have?
How many book cases do you have?
January 11, 2009 at 1:29 pm
YAY!! You will not be sorry! Funny I even “converted” Pearls! Homegrwn–yes they are heavy but keep it up–their weight gives a home the feeling of stability
I love the way you have copies of books that are OK to really USE too–that’s what gives a love of reading to kids-not constant “be carefuls” and verbal handslaps if they (GASP) lay it face-open upside down to hold a place for a bit!
love the new clean and simple and decluttered bog look too! classy!
January 11, 2009 at 2:58 pm
“and sometimes they can even become more important than developing relationships…but I’m easily unbalanced so am probably quite alone in all that.”
Oh yes, quite, quite alone.
I would never, and I mean (seriously, I know you can’t imagine me doing it) I would never be tempted to tell Mr BB to hush and let me finish reading. Uh uh. I’m way too Above Rubies-ish for that kind of behavior.
“How many book cases do you have?
Hmmm…
7 downstairs, 5 upstairs, and the boxes, but I’m hoping that after culling, I maybe won’t need the boxes (wince!)
Dandelionmom, after this:
“(AND you don’t have to get all uptight if it takes awhile coming back…you know you do. LOL “
I suspected you had been spying on me.
After this:
“if they (GASP) lay it face-open upside down to hold a place for a bit!”
I know it for a fact.
“love the new clean and simple and decluttered bog look too! classy!”
I know you meant bLog, I know it.
Note to Susan – NO TOILET HUMOUR. See, my blog is looking classy now, so we have to keep the content to match. I am sure my other readers will agree
loo, I mean,poo(what’s wrong with me today?) I mean, too.January 11, 2009 at 3:15 pm
LOL, you are too astute Mrs BB! I never picked that up that little mistake… I guess it is easy to get bogged down with more weightier matters
January 11, 2009 at 3:38 pm
I love this idea of “Throw out Thursday”, I do believe that I shall adopt your idea in my home too!
January 11, 2009 at 7:29 pm
“I guess it is easy to get bogged down with more weightier matters
“
Nicely done Mrs Pearlsoftruth, nicely done
fivepeasinapod, I’m glad you like the “Throw out Thursday”, it is not at all an overwhelming thought, and I considered that if I did the minimum (one thing) that would be better than what would happen if I waited for an ideal time to tackle the whole task (which would be…never!!)
January 11, 2009 at 10:40 pm
I’m currently reading “Becoming the Woman God Wants Me To Be” by Donna Partow, which is a 90 day guide to living the Proverbs 31 Life.
Alas, I don’t think you would like her advice at all about decluttering… and I quote “Give away everything you can”!!!! Her theory is that you give until it hurts (so that you won’t reclutter your house with stuff you don’t really need). If you have two of something – give it away (and I’m sure she means books too – sorry!). But she also does say that if you can imagine life without it, give it away. I suspect that your books belong in the “I can’t imagine life without them” category – in which case you can safely keep them!
I won’t tell you that I have at least 200 books piled up around my house at the moment waiting to go to new homes. I’m not as sentimental about books, obviously, and I’m tired of things cluttering up the place gathering dust. I haven’t gone entirely mental though and have kept enough to fill at least 3 BIG bookcases, and perhaps some left over!!
I think the comments on your bog are almost as good as the bog itself!!
Tee hee…
Fee xx
January 11, 2009 at 11:51 pm
“I think the comments on your bog are almost as good as the bog itself!!”
Ha!
LOL! It took me reading your comment through twice to catch it!
Poor Dandelionmom, she won’t live this one down in a hurry
Although, there is pause to be grateful. The first time I saw this fatal error was on the Aussie homeschool board under the blog section there – a lady’s first ever post.
She had titled it:
In the beginning…… I bogged
Well, you can imagine I’m sure! We had a field day with that one. Thankfully, the lady was a very good sport – because we possibly lacked a little discretion. Well, Susan did. You know I am a model of decorum.
I suspect that your books belong in the “I can’t imagine life without them” category – in which case you can safely keep them!
It’s true that there are many that fall into that category, but it’s true that there are some that I can live without. Might be tough deciding which is which, though. I think I will have to do it in stages.
200 books, Fee? 200? That’s some serious decluttering!
January 12, 2009 at 1:34 am
I have moved house a lot in the past, and put my wordly possessions in storage – paying to store all my clutter! Books took up at least half the space. I have now pruned and pruned my book-stock – looking at them honestly – if I haven’t read them in a year, then why keep them? I have joined a library, use it regularly, and I haven’t bought a fiction book for ages now! If there is a non-fiction book that I want, then I get it from the library, see if I get on with it, if so, I buy it, if not – well, more money saved and less clutter!!
January 12, 2009 at 7:15 am
Struggling to find words…
January 13, 2009 at 9:26 am
Pernickitywitch: I have thought the same thing about paying to buy a bigger house – so I have room for my junk! Definitely makes sense to lose the stuff.
The library is great for reference, and it’s good if you want to read contemporary fiction, but if you get hooked on an OOP author, they are not much help. Still, I should make more use of it: that would certainly save space. Thanks for the reminder!
HomeGrownKids: LOL! it’s a miracle,
January 13, 2009 at 10:27 am
Mrs BB,
and what to ditch. Man, it was hard. But I got one box – take note – ONE box, and put one years work for three children in it to keep. And that’s all. He, he, was that good or what? So, you see how hopeless I would be with book decluttering
It might take me 12 years thinking about it first….(roll eyes)
I am spending this whole month of January de cluttering my place, lol. Books – no, no, no and NO!! My goal is …12 years of my children’s bookwork. Yep, I’ve kept every page for all five kids. And you’ll be proud of me – I actually worked out a system of what to keep
Am enjoying the banter re Paul Washer
January 13, 2009 at 10:27 am
Mrs BB
that was me above
January 13, 2009 at 12:04 pm
12 years? Twelve years worth of school work? And you are sifting *after* you move house?
Do you have a fire place? You could make a school project where you turn the old stuff into those compressed paper bricks for fuel
Elle, how could you ever manage to store all that? What a huge effort!!
Oh, the Paul Washer post. What was I thinking? I wish I could say I was enjoying it, lol! But when one finds oneself disqualified from serious discourse because of a propensity to delight in foreign goodies sent in the mail… the mind boggles. God have mercy on Mrs Reformatienl, if she exists!
January 13, 2009 at 5:08 pm
LOL, I have 3 big ones and 1 small bookshelf….clearly nothing compared to Mrs BB…or HGK…I’ve have been to her house before!
I agree with Susan that moving often will cure you of hording…even books!
I moved 3 times in less than 14 months and that nearly did me in, so I resolved to get rid of clutter and other stuff even 6 months or so….now 4 years later I’ve just completed my 3rd move in 2 years and I’m planning on getting rid of more books…I had meant to do it before we moved, a more logical method I know, but dh packed the books away before I could get to them.
Good luck Mrs BB with the planned Throw Out Thursday!
xx
January 13, 2009 at 7:11 pm
You know, Ladies, I have no intention of ever entering the league of moving all over the country that you are in!
I feel tired just thinking about it!!
But, after my Throw Out Thursday, or maybe a year of them, should the need to move rush up and surprise me, I may be more ready for it
January 13, 2009 at 8:51 pm
That’s the spirit, Mrs BB….but I don’t recommend moving too often….I’m so over it…
BTW, I love the new look blog, looks great!
xx
January 14, 2009 at 12:06 am
Well, having moved around (A LOT!), I’ve become a bit of a pro at decluttering with each shift. In the beginning I took everything along for the ride. By the 5th or 6th or 7th (you get the idea) move, you decide that perhaps those things you thought you were attached to, maybe aren’t so important after all. And when you move Country (and it costs you a LOT of money to move) you definitely decide they’re not important!
Yes, really 200 books. And I feel so much better knowing they are going to live in somebody else’s house, and gather dust there (hopefully not!).
It’s quite liberating decluttering and getting rid of “stuff”, well for me anyway. Nothing better than clearing out a shelf or cupboard and knowing that everything in there is useful, or being used/read.
Only two more sleeps to Thursday….
Fee xx
January 14, 2009 at 4:15 pm
BTW, I love the new look blog, looks great!
Thank you!
Only two more sleeps to Thursday….
lol! I am excited about the thought..
January 16, 2009 at 4:01 pm
How did your first Throw out Thursday go??
xx
Lisa
January 16, 2009 at 9:15 pm
Lisa, I’m so glad you asked!
I have been very pleased with my throw out Thursday, and have been so wanting to tell you all about it, but didn’t want to inflict my story on you. But since you asked…
It was great!
I have always struggled with the whole “if a job’s worth doing, it’s worth doing properly” issue, in particular because I believed that properly means perfectly. So if I couldn’t face doing something to the standard that “made the job worth doing”, I just wouldn’t do it!
So Thursday I tackled my laundry. It is one of the old, outside the house, bare concrete floor types with the original double concrete tubs. Everyone uses it as a dumping ground for things I forbid entry into the house, and as a consequence, it is quite a disaster area.
Knowing I only had to find one thing to throw out, and that if I found extra, that would be a bonus, there was no pressure. It just so happens a found a few bonus things to toss
and my laundry looks much better – not perfect – but much better.
I am so liking this plan. Doing a bit of something, imperfectly, gets much better results than doing nothing, perfectly.
Thanks for letting my share my story
January 16, 2009 at 9:29 pm
Yes, that perfectionism can be a killer sometimes Mrs BB. Glad you overcame that mental block
You will be like a mini tornado now… addicted to decluttering, lol…
January 16, 2009 at 9:41 pm
lol, only on Thursdays, definitely only on Thursdays!
That’s the beauty of it, knowing there is no pressure to do it all at once. While I will think about it, dream about it, imagine de-cluttering to my hearts content until then, the deed will only happen on Thursdays. Otherwise, I know I will get overwhelmed and run out of steam.
I will confess though (I am not addicted, merely…mildly enamored of my new hobby) to thinking I may extend my plan, and ‘invite’ the man of the house to choose an item he could live without each weekend. Just one. (but that would be 52 pieces of man stuff gone by the end of the year. lol!
)
January 19, 2009 at 8:53 pm
I’m glad you reported on your progress Mrs BB. I’m also learning that breaking jobs down into bite sized pieces means I actually do something, rather than just thinking everything is too huge and therefore doing nothing!
Keep up the good work….
Fee
January 20, 2009 at 11:09 am
Thanks for your encouragement Fee, I’m hoping that a nice and easy, low pressure plan will mean I can stay in for the long haul and slowly potter my way to
perfectiongeneral tidiness and order.